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December 2, 2019 7 Comments

Millie O’Neill

As a child, you always see your parents as these invincible super-humans. After all, they did put up with my psychologically traumatic teenage hormones at their peak. Parents want to protect you, they put on a brave face, they try to shelter you from what is dark in life. But sometimes they can’t, and sometimes, it’s important for them not to. When someone you see as so incredibly strong is forcibly made weak by disease, it’s an adjustment, to say the least. Before he got cancer, I had only seen my father fighting for me, and in that battle he was undefeated.

The poem below is about the circular patterns and routines of life, and how something as incomprehensible as cancer can put it all into perspective. Suddenly so much that was so important seems trivial. I realise what I took for granted: the moments I should have savoured; the conversations I should have had in the car on the way to school instead of glaring at a screen. Suddenly it’s a struggle to go to do simple things, like open your book in class, or maintain a bubbly and bright aura in front of peers. Everything seems superficial and inauthentic to life’s true purpose. Everyone’s complaints about minor everyday problems enrage you. When events like this give us a broader perspective, sometimes our philosophy of life changes.

I now see society’s conventions as in some ways detrimental to our humanity. Priorities are skewed, and no one is present. We are set on goals, as opposed to focusing on gratitude. We would rather be worshipped than practice love. Spiritual wealth is only accessed to increase material wealth, and the snapshot evidence of a moment is more important than the contentment that comes from the moment itself. And, ultimately, we see the purpose of life as performing and achieving as highly as possible within these routinised circles.

Happiness is fleeting, but I believe that if we learnt to break these circles it could become a more sustainable state. I would like to finish with a quote from my favourite new wave philosopher, Alan Watts:

I have realised that past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is.”

Have the courage to break even one circle today, have the courage to do what is your true purpose: to love. You will only realise that love is the most precious thing when it’s endangered, but we can actively try to nourish it even when the risk is nil. You don’t need the cancer card to be grateful for the truly great things that you are endowed with.

Circles

Life is an endless series of circles
And the cylindrical tube laughs in my face with the irony
Circles, like the way I always come into class, lay my books down
Circles that seem pointless because of that cylinder
Five litres they say
Five litres of poison to the man who birthed this infinite venn diagram of circles
My being
Five litres of poison
Through this cylindrical tube
Five litres to fight the bad cells
Five litres to also kill the good ones
That under the microscope look like uneven circles
I try and try and try again to break the pattern into maybe a triangle or a hexagon
But it always comes back to that dreaded prison of a shape
That looks so simple and appeasing
But weaves us into its complex painful nature
I wonder if a circle
Can be broken by this tear


Millie O’Neill is a secondary school student from Dunedin, New Zealand.

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  1. Ryno Steyn says

    December 2, 2019 at 8:57 am

    Let me start by saying, I’m truly sorry for your loss Millie.

    I agree with what you’ve written and your’s is a good perspective. As a father with an incurable cancer, I have a slightly different perspective. I have a daughter who will one day lose her father and she will feel regret about the conversations she could have had with me. She may even feel a little guilty. This is natural but not at all what I want for her.
    I’d want her to understand that as her father, my priority is that she lives her life to the best of her ability and that she’s happy. I want her to understand that I understand that some lessons can only be taught through experience – sometimes including that Instagram is not as important as spending time with your loved ones, and that I do not expect her to have learnt this lesson yet. I want her to know that the missed conversations in favour of laughing at a meme, is perfectly OK with me because I love her and her happiness is my priority.

    One day, my daughter will also learn a difficult lesson about priorities, but I’d never want her to feel bad for not knowing this earlier. I want her to remember me, love me like I love her, and most important – be happy.

    Maybe your father and I have this in common?

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    • Doro Caan says

      December 2, 2019 at 1:47 pm

      Thank you for your important contribution to this most difficult topic. Heartwarming and calming.

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    • Millie O'Neill says

      December 2, 2019 at 9:04 pm

      Thank you so much Ryono,

      That is such a beautiful consolidation, and I’m sure you and my father do have this in common.

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  2. Doro Caan says

    December 2, 2019 at 9:21 am

    Thank you for this beautiful text and poem. It is so important to be reminded of what is important.

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    • Millie O'Neill says

      December 2, 2019 at 9:05 pm

      Thank you so much!

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  3. Ailsa Rose says

    December 6, 2019 at 6:03 pm

    Ātaahua rawa! Very beautiful indeed, Millie, and wise and profound! Congratulations on publishing your first poem and more importantly on sharing your deepest truth. Arohanui ki a koutou ko tō whānau, Millie. Wishing you and your family much love xoxo

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  4. Grace says

    December 9, 2019 at 11:40 am

    Oh Millie, what a gift you have with words! They take me back to when I was a teenager also at high school and my father died suddenly. My heart goes out to you along with the hope that many blessings may come out of your hard learnt wisdom. I’m sure your work with words will take you a long way. I wish you and your family every happiness.

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